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Meeting Offline Advice

The first meeting with any new love interest can be exciting, and most first meetings are perfectly safe. But it's always smart to take basic precautions. Always trust your instincts, and be sure to keep the following guidelines in mind:

DO meet in public

ALWAYS arrange to rendezvous in a populated, public place. NEVER meet in a private home (or in a hotel room) or in a remote location.

DO tell a friend

Tell at least one friend or family member you are meeting, where you are going and when you expect to return. Let your date know the meeting is not a secret.

Tip: Contact your friend before and after the date or ask your friend to contact you at a predetermined time.

DO stay sober

Refrain from drinking excessively, as it could impair your ability to make good decisions and may put you at risk.

Tip: Stick to non-alcoholic drinks when meeting someone for the first time.

DON'T leave home without your mobile phone

If you have a mobile phone, take it with you on dates. Most cell phones can be used to call 911.

Tip: Make sure 911 services are available in your area. If not, know your emergency number.

DON'T ask the other person to pick you up

Get yourself to and from the date, even if you have to have a friend drive you or take a taxi.

DON'T leave personal belongings (purses, wallets) or drinks unattended

Don't risk having your personal information stolen. The same goes for your drink — don't risk having it tampered with.

Tip: If you must leave your drink unattended to go to the restroom, order another when you return.

DON'T succumb to the temptation to take first dates to your home (or to go to his/her home)

Stay in a public place, even if you are pressured. If you feel pressured, end the meeting and leave at once.

Tip: If you are followed to where you parked your car, stop and hail a taxi or go into another public place to use the telephone and phone a friend. Come back later with your friend to get your car.

DO set up the next date — if you are ready and feel comfortable

And DO remember to follow all of these tips on subsequent meetings, until you feel confident with your new friend. If the other person is sincerely interested in you, he or she will want you to feel safe.